Effective Self-Care Requires Going Further Up Stream

While the rest of the world is striving to be enlightened and healthier….

I see nurses, who play the most sensitive role in other people’s lives during those most vulnerable times,

remain disproportionately vulnerable in their professional selves.


Let’s pull apart some of the contributing thoughts and beliefs that we as nurses tend to gravitate to:

  • “I need to let it go.”
  • “I need to grin and bear it.”
  • “What is wrong with me, why am I so angry?”

By trying to let things go, we are just bottling up the negative emotions, which will intensify over time.

We need to Shatter that Bottle of Negative Emotions….

It’s Not Good For You ….


THE most enlightening fact that has come out of the Mind Body movement is…

Our thoughts, beliefs impact our biology.

Our beliefs change our biology.

Our mind is in every cell of our body.

And the negative thoughts, beliefs, behaviors erode our immune system and make us sick.

This brings self-care to a new levelimages-4

Now that we know more about the mind body science, we know that the most effective

self-care requires going further up stream where our thoughts originate,

not just physically working out or trying to relax our bodies.

The solutions are in Self- Awareness, Knowing our Thoughts, and Becoming Intentional about our Thoughts…          (No, this won’t change the high demands of patients, or physicians’ egos and the healthcare complexities around you…)

But it will relieve the wear and tear on your Body…. And Soul.


The Dalai Lama explains how he controls his anger and lives a life of Compassion in Action.

He promotes remaining flexible, and improving our minds by questioning our perceptions and assumptions.

He presents Emotional Hygiene as a process of becoming aware and “minding our feelings”. In this process we become knowledgeable about what emotions are helpful to us and which are destructive and the connections between them.

Through the science of neuroplasticity, we now know that we can retrain our emotional habits through conscious efforts. Most of this is in clearing our confusion and defining a path that feels right within each of us.

With a calmer mind, we can see solutions more clearly.


Nurses need this, we need this.

Goleman D. Force For Good. New York: Bantam Books; 2016.

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